Friday 5 June 2020

Dating | Dating During a Pandemic

You may have read my post about what it is like dating as a single parent but what's it like trying to date during a pandemic Honestly, it's the pits. During a world wide pandemic where meeting people face to face is most definitely a sin and social distancing is being enforced everywhere, dating is pretty much a no go. At the end of the day though, we're still only human and we want to feel a connection with someone. Luckily in this day and age, we're connected to people everywhere thanks to the internet and dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble and Hinge; so it doesn't necessarily mean dating during a pandemic ceases to exist, it just makes it ten times harder. 

It's no secret that I'm like Tinkerbell in the fact I need attention to live. Maintaining that attention though and keeping some interested by texting alone is really really hard. Let's face it nobody wants to be in the talking stage for weeks or even months and sometimes you just need a neck to seal the deal. 

Before lockdown was introduced I was talking to his fella and it was going really well, we'd talk every day, flirt a bit, we even made each other playlists and had plans to meet when we were no longer grounded. The thing is, he never wanted to do anything I suggested to make things more fun or exciting. And no, I don't mean sexting (although there's nothing wrong with that), but more like a Netflix watch party or a Facetime date or even just something as simple as a voice note. I don't want a pen pal, mate. Anyway, a few weeks in he got really shady and when I called him out on it he became defensive and aggressive, not even giving me a chance to repsond before blocking me. To be totally honest it was a blessing in disguise and even if he hadn't blocked me it was a massive red flag anyway. So goodbye, Benny boy! 

Since then there's been other matches that only fizzle out within a matter of days, which luckily I don't take personally. Most of us are looking to pass the time at the minute because we're bored and lonely, myself included. An ego boost and a momentary distraction seems to do the trick even if it is extremely frustrating! So when I see these articles and tweets where people have had virtual Facetime dates or even socially distanced dates now lockdown measures have been restricted it's hard not to feel deflated. Where are these cute men who want to properly date virtually and go on cute little socially distanced dates in the park?

Stay safe

Rachael xo

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