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The Mental Load

A few months ago someone shared a post on Facebook entitled "The Mental Load" and when I read it I couldn't believe how relatable it was, in fact, I shared it and when Pete saw it he laughed. I don't know why he laughed because it is scarily accurate. You see I think men think they do more than they actually do.
The mental load descibes how women are expected to run the household, work a job and look after the children, while the men don't do these things unless asked. But who is asking women to do these things? Why don't the men in our lives know what needs to be done around the house unless they have been asked by their significant other? 
Another week has come around when I've come home from work to dirty dishes sprawled across every work surface, the dishwasher is still full of clean dishes to be put away and last night's pots and pans have been left on the draining board. I am annoyed. All weekend whilst Pete is away, I manage to keep on top of …
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Lifestyle | Breaking Up With a Friend

Today is International Day of Friendship, is it just me or do they have a day for everything lately? Friendship is something I value very highly and you can read about my coven here. International Day of Friendship was created by the UN General Assembly to inspire friendship between people and countries which is brilliant as we can all use a bit of positivity in our life. In light of today I thought I'd touch on something I have wanted to share for a while. Four years ago I broke up with my best friend. And you know what, it was liberating! Now I know you're probably thinking, this doesn't sound inspiring and peaceful but trust me, I have my reasons for writing this.
I grew up with this girl, lets call her Sarah. My mum and Sarah's mum were best friends for years so we spent a lot of time together as kids, eventually, my mum and Sarah's mum fell out (I swear this should have been a sign) and we lost touch until years later and we were reunited through Twitter. We …

Health | Why I Chose The Coil

Contraception after giving birth is so important but you know sex is the last thing on your mind. The midwives mention it, the health visitor quiz you on it. I think we can all safely say after pushing out what feels like a football out of our fannies, we are swearing by abstaining for the rest of our lives! In reality though, we all have needs so eventually we're gonna jump back on that horse and ride! With my mum being a midwife she offered some advise and after some deliberation, here's why I chose the coil.
When I got my first real boyfriend at 17 I decided to have the contraceptive injection, I knew I didn't want to go on the pill because I'm a scatter brain and would forget to take it. At first it was great, I just used to go to the doctors every three months for a needle in my bum and Bob's your uncle. A few months down the line and I was suffering from chronic abdomen pain, it felt like I was being stabbed and I would literally be doubled over from the pai…

Family | Henry Hates Sleep

Henry hates sleep. Or me. Or both. Funny thing is on his first few days on earth he was an excellent sleeper, in fact he was that good of a sleeper I had to set an alarm on my phone to make sure he fed every three hours because he just would not wake for it. Fast forward a few weeks when we established feeding shit hit the fan. He just wouldn't sleep of a night, he hated being put in his cot (which come to think of it is fair enough really), but I tried white noise apps, rocking him, lying next to him and nothing would work. I was shattered and that's why Pete started sleeping downstairs with him because I'm a horrible bitch when I don't get enough sleep. 
Don't get me wrong there are nights when he does sleep all the way through (I think, there must be) but there are many a night (usually when Pete is away) and he is awake at all hours. The other night he woke up at 1am and did not go back to sleep until 4.30am and this has happened on more than one occassion. I…

Family | Double The Tantrums

I thought as your kids got older the tantrums got better? I thought wrong, they just seem to get bigger. George is three and a half and although the tantrums are less frequent they just seem to be absolutely mega as of late. To make matters worse, we have double the tantrums now Henry has started to assert himself! Send. Help!
George has started this god damn awful cry when he is having a paddy. I wish you could hear it - no actually, scrap that, I wouldn't wish that on anybody. You'll have to imagine it, it goes a bit like this "waaaahhhh!" Imagine a pterodactyl on steroids because that is the only way I can possibly describe it. He's unrecognisable when he does it. You know as a parent you can recognise your own child crying? I couldn't tell you it was him if I heard him. In fact, we were walking back to the caravan last week, Pete and Henry were inside and Pete didn't know it was him even though he had heard him. I want to rip my own ears off whenever…

Family | Hello, I'm Called George

My three year old is the most sociable person I know, he says hello to almost everyone he sees, and he will strike up a conversation with anyone who will listen. He certainly doesn't get this trait for me, I hate making small talk and children just seem to invite that don't they? Henry on the otherhand is definitely mine and hates talking to other people as well. George could actually talk the hind leg off a donkey given the opportunity, he's happy, confident, outgoing and friendly. While all of these are great traits to have, it worries me.
It worries me because he will talk to ANYONE, and I mean anyone. Man with dog, he'll say hello. Woman with baby, he'll say hello. Look at him, he'll say hello. He has even started walking up to people and saying "hello, I'm called George!" Earlier this week we were at a park, it was quiet, it was early and we had the place to ourselves for a while so we were in our element. At most there were about three fami…

Days Out | The Ice Cream Farm

The sun has finally made an appearance in the UK and I am quite excited which is so unlike me but here we have it, I'm a changed woman, what can I say? I had some holidays to take in work so managed to squeeze them in this week before I lost them and I think I picked the right week for it. With the sun shining today we picked George up from school and headed to the Ice Cream Farm. It is pretty much our (and a hundred others) go to day out when the weather takes a turn for the better. 

Situated just outside Chester the Ice Cream farm is off the beaten track but definitely worth the long, windy journey. They advertise as being perfect for both toddlers and older children and I couldn't agree more, there is so much to do even for Henry! As soon as you enter, you're hit with Daisy's Garden, the cutest outdoor play area which closely resembles something straight out of the Teletubbies, with hills and tunnels covered in astro turf for the kids to climb and crawl through. In…