Sunday 2 February 2020

Life | On Having a Social Life

So I might have had a bit of a rant on Facebook the other day which in hindsight probably wasn't the best thing to do but sometimes you need a little (or in my case big) moan don't you? Anyway, this rant was about how a certain selfish someone was galavanting round the world without a care and how between work and the boys, juggling a social life as well was a bit of a struggle. Don't get me wrong, I do get out and about probably more than most but I have had to make a lot of sacrifices over the years which I don't begrudge at all. 

When I woke up the next day after I'd calmed down I was scrolling through Facebook when I came across a status which was so blatantly aimed at me (I mean @ me next time, hun). This status basically said if you're a parent you haven't got a right to moan about having no social life. Did I miss the memo that said when you had kids you were no longer allowed to go out with your mates? 

If anything, having a social life is probably even more important when you've got children. You crave that adult conversation especially when your head's burnt out after discussing at length who your favourite member of the Paw Patrol is (it's Marshall, by the way). Maintaining friendships after you've popped out a sprog can be challenging because your priorities do change and I had this conversation with a mate recently. Some people will drop out of your life and some won't, I wrote about it here if you want to read. Just because it's a bit more difficult and a bit more effort is needed it doesn't mean it can't and shouldn't be done. 

I'm not saying I want to be out partying every weekend, I'm too old for that and the hangover the next day (or two) is a killer. I'm not saying I don't enjoy my time with the boys, I love our weekends together, they're boss and being their mum is dead rewarding. I'm also extremely lucky in the sense that my parents are very hands on with the boys and do babysit often, that being said you don't wanna take the piss do you? So I do make sacrifices sometimes and that's okay, I chose to be a mum but it doesn't mean I'm not allowed to be disappointed at missing out sometimes. Especially when their dad seems to just be living his best life all the time lately. It's just about getting that balance right and how at least one of us (me) has it down. 

So to the person who wrote that status, I'm sorry you feel that way, but you can have the best of both worlds if you try hard enough and a little moan every now and again never did anyone any harm.

Rachael xo

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