Christmas 2019, the first Christmas I'd separated from the boys' dad. How would we spend it? How would we split it fairly as both of us wanted the boys on Christmas Day. We've both got our set days and typically Christmas Eve/ Christmas Day fell on his days. Sounds stupid but when we split my biggest fear was him not being flexible around the holidays which is silly because we both do try accommodate each other with regards to extra days and swapping days when need be (me more than him - go figure).
Anyway, I needn't have worried because we decided to spend Christmas Day together with the boys which might seem unorthodox to some of you you but the truth is we get on far better now than we ever (most of the time anyway). I knew I wanted the boys to wake up with me on Christmas Day and we'd open our presents and have dinner together. Usually we go to my mum's for dinner but this year, to save their dad being on his own and to split the day fairly, we decided to spend it together.
We had a nice day though and I feel like it's the nicest Christmas we've had since George was born, the first one where there's been no arguments and it really was proper lovely. I'm sure arrangements will change if he or I were to meet someone else but you've got to make special arrangements for special occasions and I do hope every year can go as smoothly as this one did.
Guess the point of this post is that even when we're no longer a couple, we're still equal parents and things should be split fairly, even if it's not the ideal scenario. At the end of the day we have to do what in our babies' best interests and it's all about compromise isn't it ? :)
Rachael xo
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